Hi, I’m Marcus,
CEO and executive dating coach of MarcusNeo.Com.
I publish no B.S, tough love, no sugar coated advice and step by step systems that help you live a rich life, get what you want out of love and life.
Tens of clients and thousands readers a month use our material to succeed in the real world. I’ve also been featured in popular media platforms such as The Yellow Pages, Zula and GoodMenProject.
MarcusNeo.Com is a no B.S. personal development brand that started as a dating advice site for men focused on providing practical dating advice and social skills coaching for men. MarcusNeo.Com is gradually expanding into topics such as entrepreneurship and personal finance.
From Heart Break to Singapore Dating Coach
Through the years I helped multiple clients of different ages from students to CEOs succeed in their dating lives from geting a girlfriend to forming happy, passionate relationships.
I finally decided I wasn’t going to stay in the pathetic state that I was in.
However, here’s the problem, I barely understood women at all. Everyone of your guy friends probably assume that they could get laid whenever they wanted, how many of them actually can do it? Nobody actually knows what they were doing. Furthermore, you can’t really ask your friends for dating advice right?
So, I was confused.
I spent the next year Googling tactics, downloading eBooks, flipping through one pick up theory after another, trying out ‘negs’, trying out ‘qualification’ and all sorts of techniques. You ever saw that hand shake and spin ‘opener’? Yes, I did that as well. I got a few laughs and giggles. That’s all. I was still staring into my computer on Friday night. No numbers, no dates, no sex and no relationship.
So, one year passed like that, I told myself. I NEEDED change in my life. This ISN’T working out. I was desperate to change my fate with girls. I made a decision. I purchased one the most premium programs in town at that point of time by a world renowned dating coach.
Through the program, I made friends with other students who were going through the same problems. Firstly, I could go out with like minded individual’s friends to clubs without the fear of being judged..
Yes, I made good progress in a couple of months, however, there was still missing pieces in the puzzle. I found the training to be lacking in practicality and action ability.
The majority of the training is theory based, and not a lot of it translated into real world practicality. I didn’t like sitting in classrooms, I preferred taking action. Firstly: The coach wasn’t willing to demonstrate. How was I going to learn from someone who didn’t want to demonstrate even the basics of approaching a girl? Secondly: The majority of the material was a copy and paste from some other pick up artist material.
I figured I needed an intellectual construct. I needed a system. Not some fancy pick lines.
Needless to say, I went on my own pursuit and did my own research. I was going to be the mad scientist, that figures this out for himself. I did research into behaviour change, into psychology, into the science of human behaviour. When I delved into psychology. I found out that 50% of your personality is predetermined by your genes and you have another good 50% of it to play around with.
This shows that if you’re not ‘confident’ or do not have ‘confident behaviour’, it’s not a lost cause and you can become this behaviour.
You can learn this just like lifting weights, learning an instrument or cooking macaroni.
I dated models featured on National Newspapers, University students, girls from Japan, Bali, Thailand, Taiwan, United States, fell in love with girls from foreign cultures, left heart strings all over the planet. I had the dating life of my dreams. I could make friends, meet girls in any part of the world I went. I had the dating life of my dreams.
It was a lot to handle as a young man. It was a lot of fun, and I had many good stories and embarrassing ones. The partying, the crazy sex stories, the time to time heartbreaks. It was a lot to handle as a young man. It was a lot of fun, and I had many good stories and embarrassing ones. The partying, the crazy sex stories, the time to time heartbreaks.
This lasted for a good 6 years. I also spent the time collating my ideas, writing about it, documenting it, researching it, putting it into understandable systems for me and you to understand.
However, it became meaningless for me. When you can jump on a plane and date a girl in a completely foreign country, life gets a little weird for you. I intrinsically knew needed a higher purpose than that. I didn’t want be a dating coach initially because, I didn’t want to be associated with sleazy pick up artists.
However, it came to the point where I knew I thought… why don’t I give this a shot? I’ll also like contribute back to help others achieve the same results as I did.
Why Should You Listen to Me Over Other Resources?
Through the years I got interested in psychology. You can also use similar principles in psychology to focus on what works not just for dating and relationships, but all aspects of life: money, personal finance, business, fitness and more.
Firstly, my material, on the blog is backed up by psychology and scientific research.
No fanciful theories, just years and years of stuff that has worked. I spent years and years documenting the process, researching psychological theories, understanding human behavioral change and persuasion.
The pick up artist community inspired a bunch of men trying to logically create a formula to get into a girl’s pants. Despite motivating a bunch of men to get off their butts to try techniques and tactics seducing girls, the majority of techniques and tactics prove to be ineffective in the long run.
Human communication occurs on a subtle layer. This is why two different guys saying the exact lines to a girl can result in two completely reactions. Think about the last time someone bragged to you and you can kind of get that feeling that he’s bragging. It’s not about what and how you say it, it’s about why you say it. It’s the same with attracting girls. There’s only a certain amount and period of time that you can ‘fake it’.
Furthermore, by using pick up artist techniques or tactics, you’re actually telling yourself and your subconscious that you, inherently, as a human being is not worthy of affection and attention from girls. This reinforces inadequacy and remembers a feeling of unworthiness is a lack of confidence… and girls are attracted to…?
- The truth about all of dating/ pick up artist advice”
Over the years, I found out that many people are taking the un-informed approach towards their dating life. That’s because most of them are applying what they read and hear on, mainstream media, YouTube and books such as like ‘The Game’.
The obsession with pick up lines doesn’t actually work. You see guys starting out with this going for crazy spins in the clubs. Whilst this is great for YouTube, it paints an unrealistic picture on how social interactions actually work. These strategies aren’t researched or sustainable.
There’s a lot of marketing and fluff in this industry. Through the years, I’ve gotten quite good at picking out people who knows what they are doing and those who do not know what they are doing.
- Un realistic marketing and expectations
One common technique used in coaching by many companies is the ineffective ‘flooding’ tactic. This is not only non-effective, but psychological research shows that you won’t build a habit doing it this way, you’ll fall back to your old self within a week or two You probably felt good for that one weekend and found yourself returning you your old self after two weeks.
Despite what all other self-help gurus and self-proclaimed ‘inner game’ masters tell you, psychological research shows that there’s no way to rewire your anxieties than to go replace them with higher order habits. Hence, I created a program that I wished that I had gone through when I was 19. It would save me 6 years of rejections, heartache, pain and trials.
- The Universal Method
There are many techniques and tactics that you can find online. That’s the problem. Some of them are more applicable in the Western context, and a lot of them do not work in Asian cultures. Firstly, I’m born and raised here form the heartlands in Singapore. I understand the background, culture and nuances of the Singapore social culture.
I understand the problems you guys face:
The insecurity of doing something that is different from the ‘Singaporean norm’. Friends judging you for taking action. The fear of pissing someone off in your social group if you talked to that girl… I know, I’ve been there. The program is designed to you specifically tackle these problems.
- On quick successes and plateau-ing
For a couple of years straight, I learned quickly and started dating 6,7 and 8s. However, I built an ego around it and considered myself successful. That was when I plateau for YEARS straight. If I was being honest with myself, for years, I wasn’t really dating the quality of girls I desired. Furthermore, marketing myself as a dating coach merely built an extra layer of ego.
It’s really common for people to identify with their quick successes. That was true for me, and true for a lot of people. Hence it’s rare for someone to become world class at this. The right philosophy to approach this is to keep your ego in check and approach it from a perspective of long term growth.
I consider myself better that the average man out there however, I’m still learning myself. The best in the world are always learning.
- EVERYBODY gets rejected, dating coach, pick up artist or not
If anyone out there claims that he doesn’t get rejected, he’s marketing you a lie. Everybody gets rejected, even the best in the world. I used to hate admiting this because I thought it’ll hurt my marketing, but admitting this also liberate me to be more honest with my clients and my brand.
There are experts out there claims you can you what you want in money, relationships without facing any rejection or hurdle.
Either that, gurus shell out slipshod advice such as ‘just be positive’. However, rejection, pain, loss, grief, negative emotions are normal and healthy. I’ll even argue that they are even necessary and helpful to an extent. You’re not suppose to deny nor suppress negative emotions, but to accept them and integrate them.
- Nobody has it down 100% of the time
You can write kick ass articles on how to attract women that are 3000 words long and heavily researched. However, honestly, nobody has it down all the time.
- On ‘Feel Good’ and mainstream dating advice
Let me ask you, how many people sign up for expensive self help seminars, pay some expensive coach, go home, come back a year later with nothing much to show in their life?
Well, that’s the majority. I once also paid for dating coach who didn’t do demonstrations. If you ever pay for dating advice, make sure he’s able to minimally demonstrate!
Secondly, the advice I put out on this site is backed up by decades of psychological research and I don’t make claims that can’t be backed up by data. You’ll find multiple citations on my articles, throughout my articles. I also use my own first-hand real life stories as examples and case studies. I also don’t write advice that I don’t use in may own life, or haven’t tested.
- True growth lies inbetween self acceptance and self improvement
The idea of self development stems from the idea that you’re dissatisfied with certain circumstances in your life. However, there’s a problem there. How can you ever feel ‘enough’, if you’re always trying to improve yourself? Isn’t that the point of self development: to feel enough?
- Lines and techniques can work, but only as a structure and framework
Pick up artist techniques can be used as a crutch initially, however, Eeentually, you’ll need to learn how to connect emotionally with yourself and others. Pursue women from a standpoint of vulnerability, courage and boldness. Humble yourself to the world. Failure and rejection are inevitable; it’s how you deal with it that matters. If you’re going to treat everyone else an object, then, needless to say, you’re not going to get far in your dating life
Yellow Pages Interviews Singapore Dating Coach:
The Meet Date and Attract Program
Marcus is also the founder and creator of the Meet, Date and Attract Program.