How to get a girlfriend in Singapore and stop renting one for Chinese New Year?
Hi Marcus, founder of MarcusNeo.Com. I publish no B.S, tough love, no sugar coated advice and step by step systems that help you get what you want out of love and money. Tens of clients, and hundreds readers a month use my my material to succeed in the real world. I’ve also been featured in popular media platforms such as The Yellow Pages, Zula and GoodMenProject.
I’m going to teach you how to get a girlfriend in Singapore, the no B.S. way.
How to Get a Girlfriend in Singapore – Stop Renting One
Okay, berfore getting into the nity grity, I’ll show you a quick statistics with my search engine optimization ninja research skills:
Rent a girl friend Singapore: 480 searches a month.
You probably didn’t know that there IS a market demand for renting a girlfriend in Singapore. This goes to show that a portion of Singaporean males are probably losers. They are more concerned on paying for sex, renting a girlfriend or paying some dating agency to fix their problems. If you want to be in the 2%, like I am, then read on.
You see, dating and relationships aren’t about ‘getting lucky’. It’s something that can consciously be worked upon.
Invisible Scripts: Love Isn’t Found on a Resume Submission
I did some market research and found out also that the dating agencies industry is far larger than the dating coaching niche in Singapore. Throughout the years, I never considered participating in any dating agencies or speed dating events. I got nothing against them. It’s just not my cup of tea.
I’m not saying that the quality of people you meet in dating agencies are downright horrible. What I’m saying is this, you’re sorely limiting yourself to one outlet of meeting people through dating agencies.
I haven’t used a dating agency, however, one of the methods that agencies use is that they match up partners based on information they display on their ‘dating resume’. That can work well for people who are compatible on paper. However, as we all know, romantic love doesn’t happen through a resume.
Where’s the excitement, ambiguity when you’re submitting a paper written by yourself to some stranger who presents it to another stranger?
I much prefer going to a social setting, taking my chances with a girl I am into, risk rejection, or striking a conversation with a beautiful stranger on the street. I’d prefer all of that over paying someone to match me up with a random someone they deem suitable from what I put on my dating resume.
So, you got couple of choices:
- Visit Geylang, maybe sammyboy forum
- Rent a girlfriend just to impress your friends
- Meeting a random somebody through a dating agency or matching making agency.
- Take control of your dating life in your hand through building social skills, understanding female/male psychology that’ll also help you earn more money by becoming a better negotiator, better communicator, manager, become more charismatic and well liked.
So, which one will you choose?
If you worked on your social skillsets, develop an attractive personality, learn to approach girls, talk to them, make them laugh, hit the gym, dress well, you’re going to be far more successful in the long run. You’ll be able to meet, date and attract women in any social situation. It’ll put you in a position of power and choice to date the girls that you genuinely desire. Furthermore, you’re building a life skill that will ripple into your career.
Step 1: Develop an Attractive Personality
When I started out, I educated myself, read a ton of books, hired a professional dating coach, developed a brand new personality, change the people around me at the cost of losing a couple of friendships, go out night after night to clubs to test my ideas, adjust my vocal tonality, confront my emotional realities.
If I wanted to date sweet, beautiful and feminine women, I had to stand out from 99% of the guys. That’s a simple and ugly truth.
If you’re not good looking or rich, don’t worry, I’m not either. You should be playing a game that nobody else is willing to play, a game that you can actually win, and one that is much more fulfilling in the long run. That’s the game of developing an attractive personality.
However, as you progress, you’ll realize that it’s not just getting a girlfriend, it’s about a LIFETIME of growth.
Compare this to the pick up artist who runs around clubs and streets trying to take something from girls, trying to ‘game’ them.
It’s about a deep identify and emotional shift in you. It’s something that you undertake that will form a part of their identity that’ll reverberate in all areas of your life.
When I started off, I’ll be honest with you, dating hot girls was a great motivating factor. For a period of time, I went crazy on a single goal: to date hot girls. The pursuit of getting better with women morphed to the desire to travel to different cultures, to exploit my new found abilities, start a business and kick butt in life in general.
However, that slowly changed too, into topics such as self awareness, a deep understanding of my psychology, attachment theory, emotional fulfillment and purpose.
This is why you’ll need to see it as a life long identify shift.
Here are some examples:
Goal: Get a girlfriend
Deep identity shift: Becoming more socially confident and attractive to girls
Goal: Make a girl laugh
Deep identity shift: Being more humorous and charismatic
Goal: Learning how to approach girls
Deep identity shift: Keeping yourself accountable and pushing through your fears
Goalt: Holding her hands and kissing her on the first date
Deep identity shift: Being more comfortable with your sexuality: removing internal barriers and sharing/assertive your sexual desires with others.
You education in life doesn’t stop at University. There’s a misconception taht your education in Singapore stops at University. I got lucky on this point. Since I sucked at school, I told myself that this learning this is going to be life long. However, I observed some of my friends who graduated from local University. Yes, you are book smart. However, their education is often limited in the classroom, and they stop learning after ther graduate. So yes, always be learning.
Step 2: Learn Dating and Social Skills
I started off reading routines and lines, from self help pick up artist books such as The Game. These books gave me a good push to go out there and master social skills.
There are multiple dating and social skills you’ll need to master:
- How to approach a girl in Singapore without freaking her out
- How to spark a conversation out of nothing
- How to keep your conversations interesting
- How to make a girl laugh
- How to flirt with a girl
- How to touch her without creeping her out
- How to ask her out
- How to take her home without creeping her out
- How to form healthy, sexy and passionate relationships
If you finish Unversity and work in a job that doesn’t have female colleagues. Your dating pool SO limited. I have friends who are engineers who are in this state. They eventually have to learn how to cold approach girls either through social events, in clubs or in the streets. So, what’s the alternative? If you aren’t Mr Popular in University are if your friends are playing Dota on Friday night, your dating pool is going to be severely limited.
Secondly, dating is a skillset that can be learned. It’s NOT something that is left up to love, luck or fate. It’s something that can be broken down into principles, step by step conversational skillsets and more. There is a HUGE mindset problem here among Singaporean guys.
The majority of the guys I know aren’t proud to improve their dating or communication skills. They go out and approach girls as if it’s a fishy and sneaky thing to do. Fuck that. You should be proud that you value this area of your life. If you’re sneaky about it, it’s probably you are a leech who wants to leech from girls, by wanting to ‘game’ them into sex.
Step 3: Put Your in Places to Meet Girls
The next step is to put yourself in places where you can meet girls. This can come in the form of University events, social events at work, meet ups, networking events or clubs.
You can get creative with this. You can leverage on your passions and hobbies to meet girls. This can come in the form of yoga, travel events, bar crawls and etc. I ended up dating a beautiful Japanese lady from a bar crawl when I was in Tokyo.
Take out pen and paper, write down hobbies and passions that you always wanted to do, but held back because of X reasons. Now is a great time to do it. If you having problems with that, let me help you by writing my own passions and hobbies:
- Entrepreneur Networking Events
- Martial Arts Classes
- Singing Classes
- Night Clubs
These are some of the hobbies and passions that I’m interested in, an be able to leverage on to meet new women. You got to be careful about some of the demographics that you choose, you got to make sure that demographic has a mixture of both guys and girls.
The thing about demographics is that you’re also meeting girls who has similar interests as you do. There’s research that goes to show that people with similar interest, self esteem, belief systems often end up together.You’re not only placing yourself in a environment to meet more women, you’re also increasing your likelihood of getting a girlfriend by putting yourself in a targeted demographic.
- Learn how to approach and meet girls anytime anywhere
If you’d like complete control and mastery in your dating life. I recommend learning how to approach and meet girl anytime, anywhere.
I started off taking part in social events, putting myself in tons of demographics in my early twenties when I was in full time University. I got my first taste of success there and then. However, as I became an entrepreneur, if I didn’t get the cold approach down, if I can’t talk to strangers, my dating pool was severely limited. For a couple of years straight, I took a huge hit to my dating life. I needed to step up.
Secondly, you can’t skip this process. You can’t go out approach tons of girls without developing a personality. You’ll be a creepy pick up artist. You can’t have the best personality without being able to talk to anyone. You need both.
I’ve seen guys that have awesome personalities but limit themselves because they aren’t willing to walk up to a stranger to talk to her. I’ve seen guys that are able to approach girls like social robots but get rejected within 30 seconds because they lack the social skills and personality. I’ve also seen guys give up on this, visit Geylang, spend their time on Sammy Boy forums, visit Thai Discos and trade money for sex, love and attention.
The ultimate question is this: are you going to be the 95% of Singaporean men that are possibly losers, or are you going to step up and master this area of your life?
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