The Importance of Mentorship – The Dating Academy and Bangkok 2019

By Marcus Neo | Journals

Apr 17

I used to blog more informally and writing whatever’s on my mind on personal growth, dating and relationships. That’s how the blog and business started. I stopped because I rebranded to MarcusNeo.Com and I wanted to publish more formally. However, blogging and writing have always been a useful tool in my life hell, why don’t I publish just one informal article.

The Dating Academy and Being a Top Performer

Since leaving my last job in the last quarter of 2019, I started treating business a lot more seriously and acquired new customers, clients at the rate I never did before. The academy has grown exponentially and I’m happy with that.

However, I’m only a one-man outfit, I do have to stretch myself in terms of time, accounting for my academic pursuits in psychology.

Some times, mentoring and teaching also puts me in a position where I’m no longer growing myself but imparting. Hence, the skillset in this area of my life stagnates. However, I’m happy to report that I’m growing in the last couple of months. I’m able to be a lot more selfish with my time and I don’t allow myself to drop in standards with the people and relationships I invest my time on.

I’m also happy to report that a couple of my recent students have been getting results. The ones that show up consistently and are highly engaged. This is a term some personal development teachers coined as a top performer.

Ultimately, if you’re a top performer, you are going to get results on one shape or form.

I remembered my time as a mentee, I attended every single lesson and went out every single week to clubs with different mentees just to put my time in the ‘field’. It’s no surprise I got results far quicker than the majority.

Measurement Leads to Accomplishment

One new heuristic I adopted recently: whatever gets measured, gets accomplished. I was already doing a slight form of this through the years in certain areas of my life, by tracking personal appointments, scheduling out gym workouts, University classes, putting aside time for business pursuits ahead of time.

However, I experience one of my biggest business growth in years after adopting this heuristic seriously. If you put in the work, measure your results, you’re going to get success far faster than everybody else.

Measurement can come in the form of:

  • Tracking the number of calories
  • Tracking the number of new women you approach per day
  • Tracking the number of hours you spend in your business
  • Tracking the number of hours you spend on your academics

The list goes on.

Bangkok 2019

In April 2019, I also took 5 days off from Singapore to take a break in Thailand with friends. It wasn’t the best of experience as there are far too many working girls and transgenders in the party scene for my liking.

However, I learned quite a great deal about social psychology and dynamics not just from going to clubs in foreign, non-English speaking countries, but also traveling with a group of friends. I haven’t done group trips in a long time as I am cautious about going on trips with friends because issues tend to pop up logistically in big groups. This trip was no different, however, it reminds me that being clear and asserting boundaries in how you deal with money, logistics, and expectations is always the BEST way when it comes to handling relationships.

I don’t really see myself going back to Bangkok in the near future. I don’t really enjoy the messiness of the capital. Maybe that’ll change, maybe not.

Mentors, Moving Forward and my Own Personal Growth

I also recently bought into the idea of mentorship. In the last 6 months, I got a business coach that was 9 years younger than I was. He was 18 years of age and running a 5 figure a month business. That’s an amazing accomplishment at a young age and I gladly invested in his coaching program.

I got results pretty quickly and I then moved on to sign up for a monthly mentorship from one of the best client acquisition consultants in the world. The experience has been nothing but positive so far.

I have paid for many programs throughout my life, however, most of these course creators are hard to access personally. There’s a difference between mentorship and solely purchasing a program for its course material.

If you join a mentorship, you have access to him or her as a mentor and you get to email, message and ask questions in the community. Mentors not only can get you a result, but the community they built and they themselves can form as role models that’ll have ripple effects in your life. That’s something I hope to replicate in the dating academy here in Singapore, mentorship and community.

You are, after all the average of the five people you hang around with. If you’re looking to get a mentorship from me, you can schedule a call here, if not I appreciate your readership and I’m looking forward to growing the academy and community here in Singapore and potentially Asia.

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About the Author

Marcus Neo is an entrepreneur and coach. Enjoys writing about dating, relationship, business, and psychology. Introvert yet extrovert. Likes martial arts and music, but never got around to the latter.

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